In the midst of one’s life, situations occur that seem to be out of our control. Our plane is delayed when we least expect it.
One of our kids gets hurt playing soccer.
The car has a flat tire on the way to an important meeting.
All of these situations create a scenario in our mind that we are a victim of circumstance.
Our mind then goes on a bender of talk, talk and more talk about whose fault it is, who should be blamed and how things are always done in the wrong way.
Whew, it is a state of noise in one’s mind that sounds like a racket.
Mostly, what is missing is a sense of unconditional responsibility.
Yes, what is your part in the situation? My part, you ask?
Yes, when we take unconditional responsibility, we see ourselves as an integral part of the action and can be part of a solution rather than playing the part of victim.
You are only a victim if you choose to play that part. This is where blame is born. This where others are apparently responsible for your life.
The power of unconditional responsibility is that no matter the situation you can be in charge of what happens next to you and how you feel about it. This may be internal or external but still you have a sense of your own being.