Ever have one of those days where you had a plan in place, you were perfectly at peace with it and you anticipated having a great day? Then the gremlins came to work and by 9:00 am it looked like your whole plan was destroyed, fires had to be put out and your mood turned sour faster than grapes rotting on the vine.
Yep, it happened to me this week. If you know me, you know I am a planner.
I like to be organized and have the path of my day clearly marked so I can maintain the illusion of control.
It gives me a good feeling to know the day will unfold in the way I have organized it.
I just forget sometimes that other people won’t do what I say, when I say it should be done or in the manner I have dictated it needs to be carried out.
They have their own agenda they bring to the party, not realizing that I already have it figured out.
The harder I try the worse things seem to get.
So, most of the day I am grumpy, my heart is racing, I run from one place to another and never feel in control.
Control being the operative word.
We need to remember that control is an illusion.
The way through life, not withstanding the crazy days is to bring a mindful approach to what is happening.
Even when things go off the rails, you can train your mind and emotions to take one step at a time and not lose your cool.
I suggest you stop and take a quiet moment when you notice you feel like your world is upside down.
Take three breaths before you answer the phone, speak to someone or drive your car.
The operative skill to learn is to slow everything down in the moment.
I wish I was better at it but I must admit to failing at this on this particular day.
I wolfed down my lunch, I was driving too fast and mumbling about the other drivers.
All I got for my ramblings was to upset myself even more.
When we practice mindfulness in our life we know we probably won’t be perfect every time.
So, we accept what has happened, provide apologies if they are needed and try our best tomorrow.
See if you can take two minutes after reading this Hopeful Note and slow yourself down from the inside.
Your day will go better.
You will feel better.
You will now that you can do it.
It’s a more joyful way to live.
This is who you are.