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Accept Who You Are

You are so much more than your physical package of bones and skin and blood and water. We see our self in the mirror and we look so real with our frizzy hair, freckles and wrinkles.

The essence of you though lies beyond the surface of what you see.

We now know your heart has an energy field than goes out beyond your body some ten feet. The energy waves are sent back to your heart and brain.

You are heart connected to your world.

You have access to intelligent knowing beyond your thinking mind.

Accept the capabilities that are within you and you will understand that you are so much more than you have thought about yourself up until now.

Yes, your training has taught you how to be and act in the world around you but that is not who you are. It is how you have been taught.

Whatever decisions you make about your life let them be from your essence rather than your adapted self. The part of you that has been trained is not the part that can offer the best decisions. It is the part that will react to whatever is going on.

However, when you get in touch with your heart self you will really feel what you need in the moment.

That is where to choose life from. That is the powerful place of essential knowing that comes with every human being.

Every one of us has an essential self that can access our knowing. I call it your heart knowing.

It is about letting go of the adapted self. That trained part of us and letting our heart guide us in what to do.

Living from this essential place is a practice. It is not something we all consciously know.

However you can get to know this part of you and when you do you will feel the confidence that comes with it.

You can always trust your heart knowing. You won’t have to second guess yourself or go into analysis to see if you are right.

You will just “know”.

This is who you are.




Life is a crazy ride of joy, sadness, failure, successes, as we define them and all sorts of experiences along the way. “Live a joyful life,” we are told.


“Drink deeply from the experiences presented to you,” others will say.


We are encouraged to love ourselves, think about our life, and bring joy to every moment.


Tough instructions for a chaotic world in which there is hardly enough time to eat properly, get to work and take care of the family.


We might say life is a grand adventure with all that happens in a day. Try telling that to your upset stomach, your shoulders up around your ears and your hair going wild in the wind as you race down the freeway to your next appointment.


Ah wait, there is a way.


To handle the chaos, craziness and seemingly endless demands on your time you will have to take a break.

Your mind not only engages in your life activities it makes up stories about them.


Quiet the mind a couple of times a day and bring yourself to stillness and presence.


Make it a habit. It only needs to start with 5 minutes twice a day.


The purpose of stillness is not to feel better about what is going on. It is to awaken your capacity of your essential self.


Awakening your essential self will open your senses from the inside out and you will be much better able to take care of yourself.

Try it. You’ll like it.

This is who you are.



To Be Happy

A plastic surgeon asked several of his patients why they wanted the surgery. They answered, “I just want to be happy.”  

Is this not what many of us would say if asked about our lives?


We buckle down each day to produce what is asked in the best way we know how.


What is your formula for your happiness?


When you look at this question, come to stillness and examine it from a quiet place.


Let your heart song provide the answer rather than your ego.


One aspect of happiness is how you see the world.


Some people see problems everywhere while others see opportunity.


What do you see?


Some of what you see is how you have been trained. Many of us are trained problem solvers. That unfortunately comes from our adapted self. The happiness quotient is limited here.


The challenge of having to solve problems all day is that even if you are somewhat successful, there is evidence to show that it will not leave you very happy.


There are two other elements that social scientists have proven contribute to your happiness.


The first is to live in the moment. This for me is about presence.

The way to get to presence is to put your ego to rest and engage your essential self in the moment.


Try it. It is a challenging practice given all the distractions we have in a day.


The second contributing element is the choices you make.


There are two basic choices all of us make every day.


The first is the choice for pleasure. Whatever that might be for you.


The second choice is about contribution and fulfillment. You can ask yourself what contribution you have made today that nourishes your heart.


In essence, the happiness factor is brought alive through the active relationship with your essential self.  This is a powerful aspect of you waiting to be activated.


This is who you are.




You Are Here

Is there anywhere else to be except in this present moment? Our heart would say, “Yes, I want to live in this moment now.”

Yet, the evidence of what is actually happening paints a different picture.

Your ego mind has the list of activities for the day, evening, week and month. It is planning the next summer vacation, nine months from now. There is like a thousand bees buzzing in your head each with something to say about what you should do and how to do it next.

The noise might otherwise leave you breathless except for the fact that you are used to it. It is the normal self talk you hear all the time.

From time to time awareness shoots up and you realize how tired you are, how much of a break you need and how you want to slow down for a few minutes.

It’s a good time to go for a smoke, have a cheeseburger or flop on your couch for a few minutes (depends on what you see as healthy).

It is really a rest period as compared to recovery.

However, like a great athlete you are back in the game zooming around town to pick up kids, groceries and complete the list of errands. All this while you hold down a real job that requires your attention and skill.


First, let’s be clear that there is nothing wrong with you. There is a difference in describing a situation and then making that situation who you are. In fact it is only the way you are acting in the situation that makes it seem so real.

You are perfect the way you are. You have all the essential qualities you came with in the moment of your birth.

These qualities, aspects and essential nature of who you are have always been here and will always be.


The change occurs when you raise your head up and look around at what is happening. You become aware of how you feel, what you say and how you act.

Then you make a choice about what to change.

It is an irrevocable promise to yourself.


You honour who you are by beginning to uncover the authenticity that has always been you. You just need to do it in small steps, a few minutes a day.


This is who you are.




“Laughter and tears are both responses to frustration and exhaustion. I myself prefer to laugh, since there is less cleaning to do afterward.”  Kurt Vonnegut

It’s only frustrating when...

They don’t answer the phone.

When they don’t do it your way.

When they promise it today and it’s not ready.

When your timing doesn’t match their timing.

Oh well, stay frustrated or let it go.

It’s hard to let it go when you know you’re right.

It’s hard to let it go when you’re always the one who has to change first. Why don’t they change first?

I don’t know. It’s just the way the world works.

If you want your life to change you will have to change first.

Then miracles happen.

The lights come on.

People see you differently.

Time resonates with you and things seem to be in better order.

All because you changed first.

What a miracle you are.

You have this magical power to change when it looks like those around you don’t.

It’s all based on your miracle power to choose your experience in the moment.

Once you choose your life and all that it can be, no one can take it away.

You have a gift and it is called choice.

Treat it with care and honor and respect.

It will serve you well when you add awareness to the mix.

This is who you are.



Essence of the Vessel

The essence of the vessel is not its golden cover or its ornate fixtures. Your vessel is not your curly hair, your lush body or your perfect teeth.


The essence of your vessel is the void inside. It is the consciousness which you choose to become aware of and enter into with joy.


For most of us this is unknown territory placed behind the veil of our historical learning.


However, there is a way to come home to your true nature.


That nature that is abundant with wisdom and knowing. It is the ultimate pursuit of happiness beyond any material possessions.


Here is how to start to live in the consciousness of your essence:


  1. Believe that there is more to you than you know now
  2. Choose to learn about your consciousness
  3. Start to meditate every day so you can connect to your source
  4. Practice your intuitive knowing and you will soon see how accurate it is


When you strike out on the path to live from your consciousness you will be excited to see the results you can achieve quickly. There are many distractions along the way. Don’t let these worry you. Persist in the face of it all.


This is who you are.



Energy Is Active

What are all the things we have in the world, made up of? Scientists say everything is energy. Even though your car looks and feels real and heavy, it is a bunch of atoms flying around in some order creating something called a car.


However, energy is everywhere in everything including you and me.

There is a huge unknown part of us that we have not tapped yet.


Your energy can be directed, molded and shaped according to your mind (not your brain) and with a bit of practice put into a shape and speed you want it to go.


That’s how amazing you are. The use of your active energy field has the potential to change the way you do life.


This is who you are.



Knowing VS Doing

You are an enthusiastic player in the game of life. You have so much to do.  

You play on the doer team. They are the team that tries to get as much done in a day as they can, based on the goals and lists that have been written in stone yesterday.


There is satisfaction in getting all the things done on the list. There is laughter and joy at meeting the quarterly targets.


There are also the knowers. These are people who know that pushing and cajoling is not their way.


They prefer to know that with ease and flow the results will be achieved as they will. They constantly battle their ego that says this is not the way but they persist.

Yes, results are achieved by knowing, allowing and being here now.


Interestingly, both people are the same person. You.


It’s just the choice you make on any particular day.


This is who you are.




Thank You

When you live your life with gratitude you see clearly the events of your life.  

Gratitude has energy of acceptance and love that is felt around the world.


Choose three things to be grateful for each day. Keep a record of them.

Read them over once a week.


All of a sudden there comes a time when you realize you are living your life from a foundation of loving gratitude.


This is who you are.




Oh, to live the simple life. I choke up on those days when it all looks so complicated.  

The speed of life, the complications of relationships, the politics of the office all lead us to an experience of energy drain.


How can we get our energy back, live a nourished life and have some fun?


I use a practice of mindfulness to slow down the train, accept what is and be in the moment.


If this sounds like a tall order, consider the energy going into maintaining the status quo.


If you were to take 5 minutes a day to bring yourself to stillness, feel your breath and be in the moment, you would experience how simple life can be.


There is no where to get to, so you can stop running to get there.


Moment to moment mindfulness is an expression of your authentic nature that is available now.

This is who you are.



Your Trajectory

You may believe that your life has a certain trajectory based on family values, or background or what you were taught.  

Your father was a doctor so you became a doctor.


Your grandmother baked the most fabulous apple pie in the world and you have brought the tradition forward.


Your belief about the arc of your trajectory is well founded in the evidence of your history.


Now, at a mature age you are asking, what am I to be?

You wonder who I am with all the skills, tools and intelligence I have.


How will I make a contribution to the world?


 Even if you want to make a contribution you wonder if it is even possible with what you have at your disposal.


The fact is your trajectory has been a manufactured reality based on historical characters and what they knew.


You have available to you your consciousness where in lies all your knowing.


You can change the course of your life by mastering access to your consciousness.


Then you will see that you can choose to take whatever course of action you desire, notwithstanding your history.


The realm of your consciousness is a powerful, real, active state of being that is fully activated at all times.


What has been missing is your realization of it.


This is who you are.




Extreme You

Extreme sports are played at the edge. All the resources of the players are stretched to the maximum limit they can withstand so they can get to the finish line before the next guy.


You play in the extreme sport called living every day. That’s why you are tired at the end of the day. You have given all you’ve got.


What are we trying to prove?


I am better than you.

I am faster than you.

I can get more toys than you.

The world is divided into you and them. The goal is to get to the finish line before the next guy.


What if you played the extreme sport of raising your consciousness beyond competition?


What if you could experience your consciousness of happy fulfillment in a way that left you feeling nourished rather than drained?

What if you knew that what anyone said about you would not alter your commitment to live in a consciousness of fulfillment?


Yes, it is possible.


This is who you are.




Trust Your Compass

The way you are in the world is a compilation of your opinion about yourself and what you think is necessary to be loved, included, respected and seen.  

It is not that you do this consciously. It is the way you have become used to being in the world.


However, you have a compass within you that is connected to your essential self.

It can be a guide for you.


Here are some things you can do to activate your compass:


  • keep moving on the path of your passion despite your suffering
  • activate your essential knowing about yourself by living beyond your adapted self
  • mobilize yourself to be in the world from who you know you are. This means not to edit who you are.


Ultimately be committed to making the difference you know you can make without being attached to the results

This is who you are.




“I am because we are.”  

A scientist tried an experiment with the Xhosa people in which he placed a basket of fruit under a tree.


 Then he told the children gathered that they would have a race and the first child to the tree could have the basket of fruit.


When ready to start, all the children held hands and ran to the tree together.


He asked them why they did not race against each other.


They replied “Ubuntu.”


Who’s hand are you taking today that will get you both to the tree at the same time?


This is who you are.




Don't Think of the Elephant

Trying to push thoughts and worries makes them bigger.  

Have you ever tired not thinking of something when someone suggested you don’t think of it?


Your brain is a technological marvel at creating pictures, and sounds.

It is constantly working to bring you information that may be helpful to you.


The powerful reality is to realize you have control on what you focus.


When you focus on the elephant, the floppy eared giant will be right there with you.


When the brain is buzzing with worries there are a number of strategies some people try like drinking, running, working, sex, television or any other distraction you can think of.


Release the obsession on whatever is with you by engaging in the passion of your life.

The passion of your heart will give you the space to be totally absorbed.

When you are living your passion you won’t have to deal with the elephant showing up so often.


It is in your control.


This is who you are.



Depression or Expression

Research shows that some 11% of men and 16% of women will experience depression during their life.  

What has caused all this depression?


In my limited survey, I hear people talking about uncertainty, chaos of life and a sense they don’t control their own destiny.


When we feel like we have lost control, we probably have.


The energy to get up in the morning to put on the face of mom or dad or businessman or businesswoman is almost too much.


We spin our lives out of control trying to grasp at something that is most likely not achievable.


If we are pushing to make others happy, meet someone else’s goals or just be seen as helping out, we have put ourselves in the headlights of depression. We just won’t win this game.


The journey of life is just that, a journey.


If we are to make a joyful trip of it then we need to choose joy each day.


In some way even when we don’t know the next step can we engage with an attitude of joyful optimism and hope?


As soon as we do that, others around us take on the same energy.


You can be a leader of, and a hopeful contributor, to show the way out of depression when you activate your own expression.


I mean your essential self expression. That place within you called soul or knowing.


You have light within you, as we all do.


We can raise our consciousness to a level that we can accept and be joyful with all aspects of ourselves.


As an author, I struggle with my expression and if I leave it behind I can fall into the dark place.


The truth about you and I, however, cannot be denied. There is light, wisdom and knowing within us beyond any feelings of inadequacy we might have.


Choose to know your essential self. That is where the hope, possibility and inspiration live.


This is who you are.



Joy Is Close At Hand

I am wondering, did you wake up with joy in your heart today?  

Joy is close at hand.


It is wherever you are if you choose to embrace it and activate it in your heart.

Joy arrives with you when you come home at the end of the day and your lover is there to greet you.


Joy is present when your children move from one plateau to another in their learning of life’s ways.


Joy abounds when you dig in your garden and smell the earth and enjoy the bees helping.


Joy is at hand when you walk your puppy. That beautiful bundle of joy you care for every day and will never grow up but you don’t care.


Your heart bursts with joy when you know the light of your soul.


You abound in joy at your physical, emotional and spiritual accomplishments notwithstanding the hurdles you had to overcome.


Joy is everywhere if you choose to acknowledge it in your life.


It could be a useful addition to your day. Don’t you think?


Share your stories of joy to shine light on the places in your world that need it.


Joy fills the room like turning a light on. Darkness cannot hide from it.


Matter of fact you are joy right here showing up as you.


This is who you are.




Power of Your Mind

A Little story: Their dad had not spoken for ten years but still was at home. His brain was not functioning and he was unable to communicate with his family. One day his two sons were with him when he slumped over in his chair. The older son rushed to his side and at the same time told his younger brother to call 911.


A voice the son had not heard for ten years said, “Don’t call 911 son. Tell your mother I love her.”

At which point the father died.


Is this his brain working that brought the words or it is beyond the brain to what we call mind?

They are different.


Deepak Chopra says we must answer the question, “Who am I?”


He further proposes that the answer does not lie in our brain but in our mind.


The brain is a physical aspect of us filled with neurons and cells and synapses. These are physical elements.


What about our consciousness that resides beyond the brain?


You have access to as much information, skill and creativity as Shakespeare.


There is more available for you than has been taught to you in your upbringing. Much more.


When you choose to go beyond the box that you have built with your brain you see that the vista of consciousness is available to you.


Do you want a more expanded, interesting, fulfilling life?


Then now is the time to accept that you are exceptionally qualified to tap into the consciousness to create your experience.


This is who you are.



Editing Doesn't Work

We have all been trained to meet expectations, meet goals, act appropriately and fit in. Some of us have done a better job than others.

There comes a time though when your authentic essential self wants to show itself to the world.

There comes a time when the energy you expend trying to act and be something for someone else is too much. You realize it isn’t worth it anymore.

We all know that life itself is impermanent, yet we act as if we can keep adapting forever hoping that along the way we will find happiness in our heart.


It is time to stop editing.

If you cannot be your authentic self, that part of you that is heart connected to the world, then maybe there is a better place to be.


It’s a choice ultimately. You keep adapting until the end of the run or you make a new choice.

The truth and power are in your heart. In the knowing that goes beyond your thinking mind.

Find it, love it and activate it.

This is who you are.



Lack of Time

Like never before, I hear people complain there is a lack of time.  

Our lives are moving in a way that we seem to have lost a sense of what time it is. Where am I and where do I have to be next?


Projects, be they family oriented or work oriented have deadlines, goals., criteria and strategies all designed to complete something that looks like perfection while in the mean time planning for the iceberg ahead that is not seen yet.


The notion of “being on time” has taken on a new importance in our culture. You are measured as to your perfection if you are on time.

There is no room for taking more time than someone of importance has deemed appropriate.


We speed along our city freeways and we run to the gym for our workouts. We breath heavily and feel our hear rate jump as the car in front of us goes too slow.


It is a breathless time. The physical body tries to cope with caffeine, sugar, fried foods or anything that looks and tastes like an energy booster.  

Do you sense there is anxiety about all this?

I certainly do. We are aiming to get somewhere but where is that?

As far as I know the journey of life is a journey. Its destination, if there is one, surely will be when you are passing on from this realm and maybe not even then.


Here is a practice to help you thrive a little more in a chaotic world.


1. Decide to make a change - A small one. Don’t take on the big stuff all at once

2. Choose something that will give you a break. Let’s say, for example, sit quietly.

3. Take 5 minutes no more. If you try to make it big your mind will resist.

4. In that 5 minutes feel your breath and notice if you are present. Your mind will wander and that is OK. Just bring it back

5. Try this twice the first week. That’s keeping it simple. Make an appointment with yourself to do it at a specific time.


After a couple of weeks you will notice that you want to change the routine. Go ahead.


This is how to touch and nourish your essential nature.

This is who you are.