Are you a good procrastinator? I am an expert at it.
The reason I say that is because I have years of experience and that makes me an expert.
I know how to deftly move around in life without doing what I say I will when I say I will do it. It is a timing issue, I tell myself, not a procrastination issue. There are people in my life who would disagree with my evaluation of procrastination. I’ll have to talk with them later about that.
The waiting around to do something creates anxiety for me and those around me but I’ve learned to live with it. I tell myself it is better to wait until the last moment then I know for sure it has to be done.
What then is the root of procrastination?
I have identified three reasons why you might procrastinate.
Fear of failure. You are afraid that if you complete the task it may not be done properly and important people around you will disapprove of you.
Fear of Success. You are afraid that if you do well, people will expect more of you. You might also be afraid that successful completion will mean more responsibility.
You are a perfectionist. You would prefer not to do a task than to take the chance you will do it imperfectly. You can also experience this when things are not going well and you have difficulty persisting to the end.
All of this has nothing to do with who you are. It has everything to do with how you see yourself.
We know you are intelligent, compassionate, hard working and care about what you are doing.
I’ve decided to just start.
The decision to start can be a tough one but you’ve made hard choices before. Make up your mind that you will do one small part of what you say you want to do. If you break it into small chunks you have a better chance to be successful.
You will feel the smile on your face when you start. You will feel the thrill of the ride as you get into it and see the progress.
Go ahead and take the first step.
This is who you are.