“There are ultimately two choices in life: to fight it or to embrace it. If you fight it you will lose - if you embrace it you become one with it and you'll be lived.”   Rasheed Ogunlaru

Sometimes the tendency is to push away those experiences we do not like.

They hurt. They make us angry. They have us feel that we are not loved.

We get to feel powerless in the face of experiences we did not ask for nor wanted.

So the obvious course of action is to rationalize them away.

We pretend they don’t affect us and speak as though it was no big deal.

Yet our heart hurts and our mind does not stop the self talk about what could have been if only...

The other option is to embrace the experience. You can be in it and all the feelings that go with it rather than remaining an observer.

You can move from seeing the experience as though it is separate to being in the experience.

That means first accepting that the experience happened.

Second, acknowledge the impact this experience has had on your life.

Third, feel your feelings. Let out the anger, sadness, guilt fear or relief or whatever feelings you have. When you let them out the energy does not stay in your body. Then you feel lighter.h

Create for yourself a relationship to the experience in which you are fully functioning and able to take care of yourself.

This is who you are.