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How's It Goin'?

Every once in a while it is good to sit back for a while and ask yourself some questions. The idea of taking inventory is to raise your awareness of where you are both from the interior and the exterior.

Your interior weather system is an important one to be aware of.

Many of us put aside our sensitivity as to how we were feeling when we were growing up. The feelings were big and bold and some of us were told what to do with them.

Every day take a few minutes to ask:

How am I right now? How do I feel?

How is my attitude about where I am at in my life?

Do a scan of your physical, emotional and intellectual body.

Is there pain?

Is there anxiety?

Is there a nonstop dialogue going on about something that happened days ago?

Are you judging something or someone?

These are just a few of the questions you can ask yourself.

When you take inventory of your life you are fulfilling your responsibility to be as awake as you can in the moment.

This is good.

This is who you are.

Howiej

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Accept Who You Are

You are so much more than your physical package of bones and skin and blood and water. We see our self in the mirror and we look so real with our frizzy hair, freckles and wrinkles.

The essence of you though lies beyond the surface of what you see.

We now know your heart has an energy field than goes out beyond your body some ten feet. The energy waves are sent back to your heart and brain.

You are heart connected to your world.

You have access to intelligent knowing beyond your thinking mind.

Accept the capabilities that are within you and you will understand that you are so much more than you have thought about yourself up until now.

Yes, your training has taught you how to be and act in the world around you but that is not who you are. It is how you have been taught.

Whatever decisions you make about your life let them be from your essence rather than your adapted self. The part of you that has been trained is not the part that can offer the best decisions. It is the part that will react to whatever is going on.

However, when you get in touch with your heart self you will really feel what you need in the moment.

That is where to choose life from. That is the powerful place of essential knowing that comes with every human being.

Every one of us has an essential self that can access our knowing. I call it your heart knowing.

It is about letting go of the adapted self. That trained part of us and letting our heart guide us in what to do.

Living from this essential place is a practice. It is not something we all consciously know.

However you can get to know this part of you and when you do you will feel the confidence that comes with it.

You can always trust your heart knowing. You won’t have to second guess yourself or go into analysis to see if you are right.

You will just “know”.

This is who you are.

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Paradox

Life is a crazy ride of joy, sadness, failure, successes, as we define them and all sorts of experiences along the way. “Live a joyful life,” we are told.

 

“Drink deeply from the experiences presented to you,” others will say.

 

We are encouraged to love ourselves, think about our life, and bring joy to every moment.

 

Tough instructions for a chaotic world in which there is hardly enough time to eat properly, get to work and take care of the family.

 

We might say life is a grand adventure with all that happens in a day. Try telling that to your upset stomach, your shoulders up around your ears and your hair going wild in the wind as you race down the freeway to your next appointment.

 

Ah wait, there is a way.

 

To handle the chaos, craziness and seemingly endless demands on your time you will have to take a break.

Your mind not only engages in your life activities it makes up stories about them.

 

Quiet the mind a couple of times a day and bring yourself to stillness and presence.

 

Make it a habit. It only needs to start with 5 minutes twice a day.

 

The purpose of stillness is not to feel better about what is going on. It is to awaken your capacity of your essential self.

 

Awakening your essential self will open your senses from the inside out and you will be much better able to take care of yourself.

Try it. You’ll like it.

This is who you are.

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Life well Lived

Each of us would like to have something nice to say at the end of our days when we ait in the old rocker looking out at the hay swaying in the sun. Will Rogers said, “Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there.”

To be in action with intention and purpose is to bring energy, direction and contribution to your life.

A life well lived is not lived in the future or in the past. It is not lived through your children or your parents or your friends.  God knows we have enough challenge keeping track of our own life, why would we want responsibility for theirs?

Do you have an expectation of living your life fully?

Are you waiting for someone or something to change before that happens?

Now is your time.

Now is your life.

You have loads of opportunities and you can spend a lifetime sifting through them in order to choose exactly the right one.

Not much upside in doing that since life keeps moving and shifting anyway.

Just pick one from your heart and try it.

To get moving in your own life is to take the focus you have had until now off of the others in your life.

That does not mean to forgo your relations with them.

It means knowing what is important to you in your life and telling the truth about that.

Your soul’s purpose is known to you.  It is burning a hole in your pocket waiting for you to take it out.

As long as you have your eye on something else you forgo the opportunity that lies within you.

Get up, look in the mirror and see the beauty staring back at you. Surely you appreciate the miracle you see.

This is who you are.

Howiej

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Any Negative Side Effects?

What is your purpose today? Who shall play a part in your life today?

What will you choose from the banquet of choices that lay before you today?

A chapter of your life is going to be written today.

Every character, every experience and the sum total of what you do, how you act and what thoughts you have are written into this chapter.

Will there be any negative side effects?

That will depend on you.

Howiej

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To Be Happy

A plastic surgeon asked several of his patients why they wanted the surgery. They answered, “I just want to be happy.”  

Is this not what many of us would say if asked about our lives?

 

We buckle down each day to produce what is asked in the best way we know how.

 

What is your formula for your happiness?

 

When you look at this question, come to stillness and examine it from a quiet place.

 

Let your heart song provide the answer rather than your ego.

 

One aspect of happiness is how you see the world.

 

Some people see problems everywhere while others see opportunity.

 

What do you see?

 

Some of what you see is how you have been trained. Many of us are trained problem solvers. That unfortunately comes from our adapted self. The happiness quotient is limited here.

 

The challenge of having to solve problems all day is that even if you are somewhat successful, there is evidence to show that it will not leave you very happy.

 

There are two other elements that social scientists have proven contribute to your happiness.

 

The first is to live in the moment. This for me is about presence.

The way to get to presence is to put your ego to rest and engage your essential self in the moment.

 

Try it. It is a challenging practice given all the distractions we have in a day.

 

The second contributing element is the choices you make.

 

There are two basic choices all of us make every day.

 

The first is the choice for pleasure. Whatever that might be for you.

 

The second choice is about contribution and fulfillment. You can ask yourself what contribution you have made today that nourishes your heart.

 

In essence, the happiness factor is brought alive through the active relationship with your essential self.  This is a powerful aspect of you waiting to be activated.

 

This is who you are.

 

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Powerful Appetites

Your appreciation for all that you love can take you places you may not want to go. Powerful appetites for food, drink, lust and anything else that bring to the edge of your life and you are wondering how you got there.

Your ego has developed a particular appetite for goodies previously thought to be ok for you. It’s just not moved from not enough to too much.

Your gifts and talents shine above all the rest to be put aside while you sup at the banquet table of satisfying your appetite for that which you know no longer serves you.

You are so much more than your appetite. It is only a projection of wanting something. When wanting gets out of control there is a grasping for more.

Whatever the excess of your appetite you choose it in some way to satisfy something you think needs satisfaction.

You are so much more than your appetite.

When you become aware of your appetite then also become aware of the choice that goes with it.

Then you know what to choose. The powerful appetite or your powerful life.

 Howiej

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Right Now!

Do you know how many babies will be born in the next five minutes? Do you know how many people will die in the next five minutes?

I haven’t looked up the statistics to know exact numbers but I bet it’s a lot. Let’s say in the thousands.

So every minute on this planet there are people grieving the loss of a love one and there are moms and dads rejoicing in the birth of a miracle.

The question is, what are you spending your time focusing on? All the losses or all the miracles?

The miracle of your life is that you are reborn every moment both through choice and the biological nature of your makeup.

The biology takes a care of itself.

You get to take care of the choices you make as to what your life is now in this moment. That’s it. There is nowhere else to focus as far as I can see.

In this moment you may be looking at a change that needs to occur in your life.

How willing are you to engage in that change so that all your resources are brought to bear on what may be a most important time?

I have learned that the more you focus on your essential self which is the part of you that has the DNA of your purpose, your intention and your imagination, the more you will feel the surge of power flowing through you.

When your energy flow is free because you act in accordance with your knowing you activate the living miracle that appeared so long ago as you.

This is who you are.

Howiej

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Know Everything - Know Nothing

The idea of having to know everything is stressful at the best of times. There are expectations of you to be the best at your job, your family and your leisure activities.

Where do these expectations come from?

Right from your interpretation of what you think is expected of you to attempt to create a life of proven ability, skill and expertise.

Good thing we have skilled experts. If I was having heart surgery I would want to make sure the doctor was well trained.

However trying to know everything in your life is a monumental task if at all possible.

How about knowing nothing?

If you know nothing you enter the world of your intuition and soul knowing space where information is available to you moment to moment.

This idea asks you to let go of previous constructs and to play in your world one moment at a time.

A powerful way to live this way is to accept that you are an intuitive connected person who has an internal internet system ready to give you whatever you need.

When you turn on your power to connect you will let go of past constructs that have you in a box and you will be open to inventing and accepting what is available right now.

You have it all within you.

This is who you are.

Howiej

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Where The Mountain Meets The Valley

Many people live in the valley. It is comfortable, the roads are well maintained, they know each other and when tension arises they just put it aside. The people in the valley live at the foot of the mountain. The cold wind blows down into the valley and fog follows along. The people in the valley are ok with that because they are used to the fog and the cold. They just put on a heavier coat. They turn away from anything that looks like trouble.

There are a few people living up on the mountain. When they come down and they sometimes do, although not often, they report on the clarity of the air, the brilliant light and the deep hearted connections they have with neighbours. There is a lightness to them that is noticeable.

The mountain people, as they are called, seem to have a different quality to their presence than the valley people. Some living in the valley think it’s attractive and want to go and live on the mountain.

When someone chooses to start the journey up the mountain many call them back. It’s dangerous they say. You will never make it is another chant.

The reasons to stay in the valley are a comfort in a way of life that few will challenge.

Yet, those that choose to go up the mountain know they must stay the course or lose all that they want for their life.

It is not an easy journey. There are obstacles and there are openings along the way.

The question so many ask is, “What is up there anyway? We have all we need right here.”

The answer is not straight forward. The travellers talk in terms of finding their authentic self again. They want to regain and action their power that has been put aside for so many years.

The energy pushing them from inside their heart is too great to resist the journey, no matter what.

Those that stay committed to the mountain journey find lightness in their step, a broadening of their horizons and opportunities for their life they could never have imagined.

It is a breath of fresh air up the mountain, the light is brilliantly clear and you can see what is needed at every moment.

A long journey? Perhaps.

Yet, if you are to believe what the people of the mountain have experienced then you would know the journey is more than worthwhile. It is critical.

 Howiej

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You Are Here

Is there anywhere else to be except in this present moment? Our heart would say, “Yes, I want to live in this moment now.”

Yet, the evidence of what is actually happening paints a different picture.

Your ego mind has the list of activities for the day, evening, week and month. It is planning the next summer vacation, nine months from now. There is like a thousand bees buzzing in your head each with something to say about what you should do and how to do it next.

The noise might otherwise leave you breathless except for the fact that you are used to it. It is the normal self talk you hear all the time.

From time to time awareness shoots up and you realize how tired you are, how much of a break you need and how you want to slow down for a few minutes.

It’s a good time to go for a smoke, have a cheeseburger or flop on your couch for a few minutes (depends on what you see as healthy).

It is really a rest period as compared to recovery.

However, like a great athlete you are back in the game zooming around town to pick up kids, groceries and complete the list of errands. All this while you hold down a real job that requires your attention and skill.

 

First, let’s be clear that there is nothing wrong with you. There is a difference in describing a situation and then making that situation who you are. In fact it is only the way you are acting in the situation that makes it seem so real.

You are perfect the way you are. You have all the essential qualities you came with in the moment of your birth.

These qualities, aspects and essential nature of who you are have always been here and will always be.

 

The change occurs when you raise your head up and look around at what is happening. You become aware of how you feel, what you say and how you act.

Then you make a choice about what to change.

It is an irrevocable promise to yourself.

 

You honour who you are by beginning to uncover the authenticity that has always been you. You just need to do it in small steps, a few minutes a day.

 

This is who you are.

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Delayed Gratification

We have been taught to want it all now. For the past seventy years we have lived through some tremendously prosperous times as well as difficult times.

Many of us have been given everything our parents could afford and maybe more.

We learned that there was no need to wait for what we wanted. If we wanted it we did our best to get it now.

It’s how money has come to represent the power in our pocket to buy many and sundry things.

Some of us did not learn to slow down in the frantic pace to acquire. There did not seem to be any reason to wait.

What is the point in waiting for something if you want it now?

In the face of the modern reality of changing markets, job shifts and economic upheaval an old idea has come forward once again. It is called delayed gratification.

In essence this may not be the best time to go out and get what you say you want.

The urge to acquire mostly comes from your conditioned self rather than your essential self.

When you turn inward, as many of us were not taught early on, you become aware of how it feels to want something. You feel the conditioned self straining to reach for the new toy so shiny and bright right now.

Yet, your essential self knows the feeling of the right time. There is a resonance to it that lets you know when the time is right.

Your essential self knows that waiting might be the best answer in this moment. Through delayed gratification comes a perfect sense of fulfillment.

This is who you are.

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The Wall Comes Down

I built a wall around me when I was young. I used it to be safe in the world.

I had decided the world was not a safe place for me.

So it was better to conform as best I could and not let them see who I really am.

You see, I am a very sensitive person. I am connected to my surroundings and that includes the people in it. Yes, I feel connected to you too.

My sensitivity was not seen, not valued and not encouraged.

The question to ask yourself is, what wall have you built? How do you experience staying safe in the world?

I have promised to take down the wall now. It is not needed anymore. Actually it is holding me back.

I realize I can take care of myself.

I am ready to fully empower my intention of activating hope and inspiration. So I want to be fully available to do that.

It seems to me the way to let you see what I am doing and how I am doing it is to take down the wall between you and me.

You can do the same.

There is a powerful personal expression in taking down your wall.

You just have to know what the wall is made up of and then practice being more available without it.

Howiej

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A Billion Years Ago

  A billion years ago there was probably a sea where you are standing now.

Then in what seems like a flash everything has changed. The sea is gone replaced by a bustling city, cars and huge buildings.

The evolutionary spiral continues at a pace. It is continuously moving.

How fast are you moving, evolving, and learning?

It is all happening even if you are not aware of it.

If you live to be a hundred it will go by so fast your head will spin.

One moment you are born and the next moment you are one hundred.

It’s that fast.

No time to waste angel. You are precious and what you are here for is to choose how to give your gifts to the world.

The power you have is awesome over what you do in your life.

A billion years ago you were not here. One hundred years from now you will not be here.

How you fill the gap is up to you.

This is who you are.

Howiej

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Frustration

“Laughter and tears are both responses to frustration and exhaustion. I myself prefer to laugh, since there is less cleaning to do afterward.”  Kurt Vonnegut

It’s only frustrating when...

They don’t answer the phone.

When they don’t do it your way.

When they promise it today and it’s not ready.

When your timing doesn’t match their timing.

Oh well, stay frustrated or let it go.

It’s hard to let it go when you know you’re right.

It’s hard to let it go when you’re always the one who has to change first. Why don’t they change first?

I don’t know. It’s just the way the world works.

If you want your life to change you will have to change first.

Then miracles happen.

The lights come on.

People see you differently.

Time resonates with you and things seem to be in better order.

All because you changed first.

What a miracle you are.

You have this magical power to change when it looks like those around you don’t.

It’s all based on your miracle power to choose your experience in the moment.

Once you choose your life and all that it can be, no one can take it away.

You have a gift and it is called choice.

Treat it with care and honor and respect.

It will serve you well when you add awareness to the mix.

This is who you are.

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You need Sandpaper

When faced with life’s struggles you may want to run away or put your head down and try harder to get through it.Some people go to a quiet place and put the difficulties aside, at least for a time. SandpaperSome of us have put away the difficult memories for a long time. They have not been healed and tend to act as bumps along the road of Life. Take a lesson from the carpenters. If he wants a board to be smooth he will use sandpaper to smooth it out. He will not stand it up against the wall expecting in a few weeks to have the board be smooth. The struggles in life are like sandpaper to us. They can smooth us out getting rid of the sharp edges of history or current reality.

The carpenter knows what he is doing He knows when to use course sandpaper and when to use a fine paper to create the finish he wants. Understandably it would be wonderful to think of a trouble free life. Yet I wonder what would become of us if we didn’t have to sand off some rough edges very once in a while? This is who you are.

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Be Yourself

Oscar Wilde said, “ Be yourself. Everyone else is already taken.”

Unique YouTheir is no one like you.

When you take the time to know yourself you get to know what works for you and what doesn’t.

If you are vague you will get vague results.

When you are mindful you will get mindful results.

Humans are complex systems of a multi-dimensional nature.

You owe it to yourself to know yourself.

What historical suffering has you trapped in a body wanting more but blocked by old ideas and behaviors?

We are creatures made to learn and grow.

Growing is part of life. It has ups and downs and forward movement unless you choose otherwise.

No point in mimicking someone else.

It won’t help you be you.

So clear away any historical rubble, be clear with what works for you then move toward what you want in a mindful, respectful way.

This is who you are.

 

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The Light Has Changed

You can tell a new season is on its way.

Garden2The light has changed in the morning.

It is darker in the kitchen at six thirty in the morning.

The garden seems quieter now like the plants are resting after growing all summer.

The plants are regal in appearance sitting tall and straight and quiet.

The change of seasons happens slowly.

I think it gives us time to adjust to a new phase.

You can feel it in your body too.

It feels more quiet like something is coming to completion.

The fall is the harvest time.

It is a time of abundance and gratitude for what has grown and been brought to life over the spring and summer.

This is like a phase in your life too.

Depending on your age you may be in the harvest season.

One day no wrinkles.

The next day some show up. What?

Where did they come from?

It is a natural process.

It is slow and steady and comes as surely as the seasons change.

Whatever season you are in, be in it fully with awareness, like the plants in your garden

They grew each day during spring and summer as they reached for the sun.

Your plants loved the rain and the nourishment it brought.

What nourishes you in this season of your life?

This is who you are.

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Tranquility

The large rectangular building with a huge interior court sits quietly on the edge of a lake surrounded by forest.

LakeThe only noise disturbing this rural setting are the cars arriving and leaving.

It is so quiet I can hear my breath going in and out.

This silent time is interrupted by the constant talking in my head.

The evaluating part of me is working away at seeing where and how I fit into this retreat setting.

Nothing about this place is noisy except the noise within me.

After a few days, moments of tranquillity set in and it is like my breath goes out with a long sigh.

I am walking more gently on the grass. I am noticing the bees going from flower to flower.

I watch carefully and quietly as the small rabbits munch the grass.

The contrast with my normal world is, a first, shocking then my body and mind settle into this tranquil place.

It is a gift to be here for a few days.

Is it a surprise to think all of us have tranquility within us all the time?

No, I know it is true because it has shown up here.

All I have to do is allow it.

Let go of the striving. The cell phone is turned off. There is no television to watch.

Serenity at its best.

Coming home I decide to allow tranquility to be in my life in an active way.

Every morning taking some time to feel the tranquil place within me.

Then I can go out into the world.

This is who you are.

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