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Seller's Remorse


It happened.

I made the big decision to put Hopeful Notes to rest for a while and then hardly before the next breath is taken I am rolling around in the middle of the night with gremlins of doubt running through my head.

They make a lot of noise.

It is Sellers remorse. You never should have let it go, so says the ego.

The rational ego speaks loudly of people being let down, the loss of connection and the loneliness I will feel after this week.

My greatest fear is loneliness.

My ego knows that and speaks to that very thing because it is my weak spot.

I am sure many of you know this syndrome.

It is the ego doing its best work to maintain the status quo where it looks like certainty and safety are what I need.

But you know, if I never take the leap I will not experience the void.

I choose consciously to walk into the void because it is the way through to my next iteration.

I am not going anywhere.

You will hear from me again.

However, the me that will show up will have more dimension, more access to my authentic self and a clear knowing of my purpose.

Thanks for hanging in here with me.


Start Here - Follow It


Start Here - Follow It

Having made the decision to pause in the writing of Hopeful Notes, I immediately notice there is a big space.

This accentuates the change process and wakes up the ego.

The ego, always the helper, wants to ensure I am OK  so it goes about trying to immediately fill the space so I won’t feel the discomfort. 

The ego chatters on filling my brain with rationalizations and  justifications while attempting to clarify the process so that I will have more certainty.

However, when we are in a transition time certainty is not the way through.

The way through, as I know it, is to step toward the uncertainty, embrace the discomfort in my body, my mind and my soul and sit in quiet reflection until the next step to take shows up…and it always does.

In the moment is where the richness of the process demonstrates itself to me.

This takes a certain amount of confidence in the universal energy available to me.

When I leave the present moment I lose connection to that part of me which will guide me in this time of transition.

All the elements of body, mind, soul and ego show up as part of this time.

It’s a busy place inside me right now.

So, as many times as I have to, I make the choice to follow what is given.

Moment to moment……

I appreciate you as a fellow traveller.



It Is Time To Pause


It Is Time To Pause

When we are conscious in our lives, we see and feel when the time has come to make a change.

It is time for me to step into the turmoil of change without knowing all the steps on the path, recognizing that life is a journey of transition not destination.

I feel a powerful motivation to step toward the change in energy I feel in my life.

No matter how hard I have tried lately, I can’t shake off the impetus to stop, surrender and listen carefully to the voice of transition that is constantly giving me guidance to move in a new direction.

For this reason, my final Hopeful Note, at least for the time being, will be published on Friday, December 19th just before the winter solstice.

The winter time is a time to put certain things to bed, like our garden, so that in the spring the plants may flourish again.

However, this does not mean I will lose consciousness about my journey or isolate in my bedroom.

 I will  be pursuing new interests, gathering my energy and consciously paying attention to the path I am on.

I will emerge in a new way.

I don’t know what that is at the moment but I am consciously engaging in the process in a mindful way.

In the next few days before our time together draws to a close I will let you know as best I can the aspects of my journey of which I am aware.

I am grateful to you for being my fellow traveller.


Love Is A State Of Being


Love Is A State Of Being

Love is not a destination.

Love is a state of being.

Love is a way of knowing yourself first, with all the qualities and uniqueness you arrived with.

This state of being is an awakened state to your heart.

It also includes your connection to others you love.

When you know the state of being of love you intuitively know what and who is right for your world.

You may have forgotten the elements of this but they are never lost.

Open the door to love through these steps:

    1    Offer yourself loving kindness.

    2    Offer others loving kindness

    3    Accept what is without trying to change it.

    4    Acknowledge others for who they are and let your love shine in their presence.

This is who you are.


Love Endures


Love Endures

There are few things that endure in the world like love.

It seems no matter what, we can love each other, we can love our family and even love ourselves.

That is to say if we have one ingredient first.

The foundation for our love must be present.

The foundation is the understanding and commitment to love the only person on the planet who really matters.


Every child born is lovable and that includes you.

Any notion you have of unlovability has been learned through your experience growing up.

There is no question lots has happened to some of us that gave us false information about how lovable we are.

However, the root of love still exists in everyone and it endures for a lifetime.

This is who you are.


Love Is Fierce


Love Is Fierce

Love is energy.

All of us have it.

Some feel it more than others.

Love is best directed to oneself then to the world.

Love is fierce sometimes when you stand your ground for the love of someone or something.

It is unwavering in the face of challenge.

Love comes from that part of you that knows the truth.

Today, show yourself some love.

Remind yourself of the lovable being that you are.


Simply because that is who you are..





Love is a joining together of two people holding hands, looking in the same direction and walking together.

Love is not control of one another.

Love is listening deeply with an open heart to what is being said.

Love is not about me alone.

Love is looking to see what is needed.

Love is not demanding of a fulfillment of my needs alone.

Love is so many things designed and delivered through our connection.

When love is in the room the dance is underway to open all of us to a greater understanding of who we are.

Love is all these things and more.

This is who you are.





Ubuntu is often translated as "humanity toward others," but is often used in a more philosophical sense to mean "the belief in a universal bond of sharing that connects all humanity.

I think we all have a sense of being connected to one another particularly in times of difficulty.

We gather to help one another when times are tough, then I have noticed we go back behind our closed doors.

Do we forget we are connected?

It seems the pace of life today requires we turn inward to our own resources to make life work.

We forget others can help us if we ask.

Just consider for a moment the possibility of being aware that you are connected in some way to everyone you meet and see today.

Notwithstanding our delusion that we are separate and try to do it all alone, can we consider the idea that in fact we are not alone.

The resources available to us go way beyond what we might access on our own.

This is an exciting possibility for everyone’s life.

We just need to pay attention and listen.

Ubuntu can become our daily practice.

This is who you are.





Our bodies appear so solid.

There is stuff there you can pinch and see in the mirror.

Our life activities look certain because they are what we do every day.

Life happens day after day, head down and shoulders hunched, pushing ahead with what needs to be done.

It is what is expected, isn’t it?

We take it for granted that the way things are is the way they will be.

That is, except when events intervene to pull us up short.

We have to stop when exhaustion shows up or illness presents its gift of a time out.

What if we just choose to take a moment to breathe and give thanks for what we have?

What if you took two minutes a few times a day to pay attention to how you feel?

As I write this note, I am reminded of how hard I have tried and I see others trying, to keep the chaos of life in check.

The way I see it, the journey is the thing not the destination.

If we miss out on the small moments of awareness, we miss the sparkles life brings us moment after moment.

Sure, it may be hard sometimes to keep it all going.

There is so much activity.

I just think it might make it a bit easier and more enjoyable if we took some time to appreciate ourselves and the process...moment by moment.

This is who you are.


Two Phrases That Change Your Day


Two Phrases That Change Your Day

There are two phrases that when used with gratitude and connection create something positive that was not there before.

The phrase is “thank You.” 

This is an acknowledgment of something done for you for which you are grateful.

Many people in our fast paced world do not get acknowledgment for the things they do.

I have noticed this with store clerks, nurses, teachers, doctors, husbands and wives  and many others who are of service.

The service is provided by the person because it is their job or their responsibility or a desire to help, not to get the acknowledgement.

A deeper connection is formed, good will is created and stronger relationship are forged when “Thank you” passes between them.

In many cases it is the people closest to us we forget to say, “Thank you” to. 

In a way we have taken the relationship for granted by forgetting how important acknowledgment is to the other person.

The other phrase that will change your day is to address someone by their name.

If you don’t know their name, just ask them.

An instant bond is created.

When you use another person’s name with respect, connection and authenticity you are saying something to them about how much you value them.

It provides the opportunity for a happier and more connected moment.

Many times the people closest to you are craving your acknowledgment.

Don’t forget them just because they are beside you all the time.

Familiarity is the reason to be more aware of how you acknowledge them.

Two phrases to use to change your day. “Thank you” and addressing someone by their name.

This is who you are.