Here's an excerpt from my new book, The reinvention Equation. I'm looking at how we can apply creativity to our lives when change is called for. I hope you'll take a moment and leave a comment and share with your friends. I plan on sending out more excerpts from time to time.
Have you ever reinvented yourself?
I am sure you have but may not be aware of how you did it or what resources internal or external you brought to bear for it to happen.
I know I have reinvented myself several times. Mostly out of unplanned circumstances that had me change direction.
Even though there was a feeling of a lack of power in those times, a change was called for and there was nothing I could do about it.
One of the first reinventions I remember as being a big one was the divorce from my first wife. This was a big one. I was unaware of what was happening, not emotionally available to the relationship and totally self centered on my own life.
Notwithstanding counseling sessions that I considered a waste of time (that was my perspective at that time in my life - not any longer), I carried on with my business and personal life as though there was no disconnect with my partner, as though she could not possibly be in pain because of her experience.
Sure, we had discussions from time to time with what I perceived as threats to my well being through my activities like working long hours and traveling most of the time. Notwithstanding the information I was getting, I just carried on doing what I always did.
Then one day the end came. She was done. I did not see it coming because I was out of touch with my intuition and my feelings. I had thought things through and told myself I had things figured out. As you might have guessed, I didn’t have anything figured out.
The moment of reinvention had appeared and I was not ready for it.